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I have to ask the question of someone who is smarter than me at this bpdr thing.

I think that if I allow people to get to know me they will not like me or reject me or laugh at me or something.

I am trying really hard to stop this but the stress it is creating in my life is really getting to me.

I am a trainer at a local football (Aussie Rules) club. I look after the players injuries etc. They are a fantastic bunch of guys and I know they really appreciate everything that I do for them, but I am so afraid to be myself because they might not like me.

After I was sexually abused from the ages of 8-11 I isolated myself from everyone, especially at school. I would hang out in the library and stuff like that so that people would not know what a horrible person I was. I am working through all that stuff with my therapist now, but I still want to hide. But I dont want to hide. And then I do and then I dont.

I cant rid myself of these negative thoughts...any ideas?

You've been through some difficult stuff. It can be hard to get rid of those thoughts if they've been running around your brain for a while. What you can do is take that distortion "If people get to know me they won't like me" and see if one or more of the 10 Ways to Untwist Your Thinking can help you look at yourself in a different way.