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how interesting! ty for sharing it, emerging:) lotta food for thought there.

Thanks for the link! The article nails my mother. Wow.

Wow! The descriptions of typical family situations where the child develops BPD are extremely similar to my own (dominant, unempathic mother, absent father).

The study of the monkeys, where those pparticulary perceptive monkeys raised by very nurturing mothers went on to become very dominant and successful members of their group, as opposed to those who were not in the care of a very nurturing mother, well, that made me very sad. It made me realise how much my bloody mother is responsible for my disorder and how vastly more successful I'd have been in life had I been adopted by a mother with more nurturing qualities.

Blah. I got it. Gotta deal with it regardless of who's to blame.

very interesting headline. Us people with BPD have been called "Indigos", Empaths, etc.

They are just other terms. Not easy to live with any of them, so I try and distance myself from all of them; it's for me living in the solution. Very hard at times, but I try.

My parental experience was the flip-side to the normal one that results in BPD: dominating critical father and emotionally unavailable mother.

I also felt very sad when I read that, with a nurturing parental environment, those with BPD would often become some of the most successful people in adulthood. I truly believe that if I'd had a parent who nurtured me and believed in my ability to succeed, I would be much more happy and successful today. Instead, I've avoided taking risks and settled for what feels safe and secure. I know it's my job to change that now, if I want to. But the personal insecurity and fear of failure is very deeply ingrained. It's so hard to change.