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Hi everyone. My T has been on vacation this week and it hasn't been 100% easy. but my head has been working a lot. And one thing my T talked to me about (before he went on vacation) was something he calls 'real time'. By that he is talking about not just 'being in the moment' but 'thinking in the moment'!

Recently it has been obvious to everyone around me that I think and act way too quickly/impulsively/compuslively and all that stuff. So anyway, the abilify is helping to slow me down but I have been practicing this new tool. When I needed to make a decision around a potential job this week, I did not react so impulsively. i wanted to tell the woman off for not keeping to her word and stuff but I did not react so fast. Instead, I practiced 'real time' and I asked myself if there was an immediate threat or emergency. and since the answer was that there was no immediate threat or emergency, I took my time and thought about it. I decided that this job was not right for me. Then I simply emailed the woman and kindly stated this in a professional way. My T was right....it helped take away some of my negative self talk by doing this too. when I get all worked up and impulsive, I end up doing or saying something to push someone away, or i make a decision when i shouldn't have and then regret it later on. then that triggers the negative self talk and I feel bad about myself.

So practicing 'real time' was very good for me. My T will be very proud of me.

sorry if this doesn't make sense to anyone. It makes sense to me, and I just wanted to share.

Roo

I think it makes perfect sense RDB! It can be very difficult to her another voice over the one that wants to react wildly, but that skill can save us a lot of pain in the long run. What you described about the job you declined is such a perfect example of self control and taking responsibility for your feelings. Really nice work!